you know, I've came to a realization that you only knew who you are really with during prom night. It's quite blatant who are the people whom I will ultimately keep in contact with. The people I deem as friends.
Some might be laughing at me right now while reading this post. Friends? Really? Rieka's talking about friendship? Ha. I do look like one who flits around from people to people, never staying too long in the company of one group before I jumped to another. And oh yeah, not forgetting my 1 and a half K of facebook friends whom I've been deleting every now and then and one more thing, I've been adding on to my collection of unattended friend request too. But yeahh, you aren't reading wrongly, I have my share on this topic as well. :/
So this thought has been ongoing for th past few months, when I decided to withdraw myself from....people. It's pretty good being #foreveralone you see, the gist is that you have more time to think and you don't have to try to please the society because you will not even bother about how people look at you. Once you've made that decision. So this short journey by myself (factually, I'm not by myself because there's always this
someone ) allow me to discover several things:
1. I've been much more specific about my definition of friend. And truly, during prom night I've understood who're those people who really sticks to me after going through 2 years in this college. Though, of course I'm not gonna mention it here, I do practise censorship afterall. haha.
2. Different people have different definitions of 'friends' . I've met people who became friends because of common interest ( things like lame jokes, mugging style, favorite music...etc ) , people who became friends because of circumstances or because they are placed in the same environment ( CCAs, PW groups, church, OG...etc) and lastly, people who friend others for benefit (these kind of people are everywhere! I just realized that...)
3. To deal with the 3rd kind, those who friend others for benefit, it's actually not that tough at all. I've actually been dealing with a couple of these people around me and initially I thought that they're tricky. But they're not. You see, since they are probably 'friend'ing you for a certain asset that you have, you can easily just appear not to have. A perfect example ( taken from a real life situation ) are people who all of a sudden tries to be your friend because they want you to buy something for them. The easy way to escape this situation? Haha tell them you're broke (and really, act like you're perpetually broke) and they might just stop bugging you one day.
4. It's so important that when you claim someone to be your good/best friend, the other party feel mutual about that feeling. I mean, you really don't wish to be caught in an embarassing situation of being denied by your so-called best friend, right?
bleah, I've totally side tracked, this is so not what I planned to write at the beginning. But still, it came off under th topic of friends, still, right? oh well, let's see if my brain could finally function again after a long period of deterioration that has been haunting my life for the past few weeks. :/
that's that peeps, toodles!
sugar,spice and all thing nice.
